Archive for the ‘belief’ Category

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What a Rush!

Friday, August 6th, 2010

My favorite life mantras have always been along the lines of:

“Go big or go home!”
“If you aren’t scared ^%#$less, you aren’t aiming high enough.”

I did an interview on Urban Rush this week, which was my first television appearance. I had SO MUCH FUN! The hosts were great, I met some wonderful people on set (half-naked boys modelling the season’s newest itty-bitty swimsuits is a bonus – thanks universe, you are very kind) and I nailed it. To me, a fantastic day involves getting out of my comfort zone and putting myself out there in some way. Taking a chance. Pushing myself to be more, bigger, better. That’s when I feel I’m truly living.

Is it possible for every day to be like that? How can we keep raising the bar for ourselves?

I think it is possible. I decided to ask life to keep putting me up for these opportunities and in exchange, I’d keep stepping up to the plate. We choose the pace we move at. We can keep things easy-peasey and relaxed and cruisey or notch it up into the sparkly, fiery zone.

I love the latter.

What keeps you at your edge? Out of your comfort zone? For me, it’s speaking in public, surfing a challenging wave, putting my voice and ideas out in the world. I love doing all those things and I get a massive charge out of them.

Grow or die. Everything in nature is either growing or decaying. Which are you?

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Follow Your Bliss

Thursday, July 29th, 2010

“When you follow your bliss… doors will open where you would not have thought there would be doors; and where there wouldn’t be a door for anyone else.”

- Joseph Campbell

I can usually tell how on track I am in my life by how doors either open or close. I lived in London when I was 19 and I was studying acting. I liked acting and I was in a great school, but somehow it didn’t lift me up. I’d come very close to the precipice of success – like have a meeting with a very well-known director’s casting agent – and just not have it materialize. After some struggle, I let go of acting and pursued other things.

When I took a lifetime worth of skills and channeled them into coaching, doors opened instantly and constantly. After I made the decision to pursue training, the course I wanted was starting the very next week, was held around the corner from where I lived and had space for me. I loved it. I got so high off coaching, it was amazing. I still do.

There’s another Campbell quote on the subject I like:

“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come.”

By listening to the signs around us, guiding us, we can avoid many pitfalls on our journey. If we are headstrong and attempt to swim against the flow, we can delay arriving at a life of pleasure, or risk never getting there at all.

Surrender to the flow.

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You Can Live There

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

“Most of the time, we fall in love but can’t remain there. The world calls the state we were in delusion or infatuation. But we were not deluded. We were not infatuated. We merely lacked, or someone else lacked, the emotional skills to hold on to the magic when morning came.

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Later we would tell ourselves that that moment of magic had not been real, but that analysis is just a collective lie. We invented the lie as a way to face the disappointment of having been to the moon on a starlit night, and then fallen back down to what can seem like such a barren earth.

Forget your old ideas. Forget the lies they told you. Forget them all, and you will begin to remember. There is a realm of romantic enchantment that makes the world we are currently living in seem not so very important, and not even so very real.

That realm is entered two by two. It is not just an emotional vacation spot, but in fact our newest spiritual frontier. In fact, it is where we are supposed to live. And in that place, we do not just live. In that place, we live forever.”

- Marianne Williamson, Enchanted Love

You *can* stay there, but it takes focus and prioritizing your relationship; believing that both your emotional and sexual connection is vital and worth putting the time and energy into. Like a plant that needs water and sunlight, our relationship needs constant attention and nurturing. So make the time.