Archive for the ‘self-actualization’ Category

Orgasmic Enlightenment in 30 Days

Saturday, November 5th, 2011

Sex for me has always been about transformation.

Pleasure, yes, definitely. But I always felt how sex uplifted and changed me as a person.

Well, the right kind of sex.

The kind where two people really let down their guard, open to each other and allow the intensity of their longing for one another show.

No hiding.

That kind of sex is cataclysmic and life changing.

It’s why I’ve spent half my life studying, exploring and challenging myself in the sexual realm.

Because I’ve seen how powerful it is. I’ve seen how it allows me to self-actualize: to become more of the person I am meant to be.

By bringing the inside out.

Deep, powerful sex means that we have to be raw. And open. And share.

Without holding back.

Deeper orgasms REQUIRE this. Like G-Spot and cervical orgasms in women and G-Spot orgasms in men.

Mechanics only go so far. Which is why so few people ever reach the next level of orgasm and sex.

They don’t know how to let go.

And what is orgasm if not release? And letting go.

I’m so passionate about my work because I want everyone to understand the power of sex, of orgasm, to rebirth us. The French term of “la petite mort” or “the little death” is so fitting because amazing sex allows us to wake up and reclaim the lost parts of ourselves.

One of the things I always mention in my talks is the idea of committing to your sexual evolution. Like anything—your career, exercise—you only get to The Zone, to the good stuff when you stick with it.

The process of transcendence in anything requires committing. Until you make it to the other side.

Enter the idea of the 30-day sex challenge.

I’ve written about a couple and their Year of Living Sexually: 365 days of sex. And how they later said it was the best year of their marriage.

You can go big right away and do that. Or, you can begin with 30 days.

In the online G-Spot salon beginning next week, you’ll have five weeks in which to take up this challenge. I’ll be guiding you every step of the way in how to deepen intimacy, create lasting, powerful habits, and reach orgasmic enlightenment.

It’s possible for everyone.

Join us on a five week journey to revolutionize your sexuality. Or, take the journey on your own. Commit to 30 or 40 days of sex. Even if it’s with yourself. Every day, spend time coming together intimately, sexually. Focus on removing ANY barriers that crop up as excuses: children, chores, work or the ubiquitous “I’m tired.”

If you have sex the way I coach you to, you’ll be energized afterwards. That way, when you feel exhausted, you’ll reach for your lover instead of a Red Bull.

And you can try my very special diet.

Either way, whether you jump aboard with or without me in the next five weeks, I challenge, I DARE you to prioritize your sex life. It’s a huge part of you that NEEDS expression.

Let it out. Let it all out.

Want to hear the results of 30 days of sex? Would you like to see a well-fucked woman?

Right this way.

Scroll down to the video midway.

The proof is in the pudding.

Much love! And orgasms. :)

xx

Image: Pierre dal Corso

The Escalator Effect

Friday, September 30th, 2011

There are times when the universe supports change in your life. You get a nudge that it’s time to leave or change a situation. You’ve been in it for a while; you’re comfortable there.

But deep down, you know it’s time. To move. To end your relationship, quit your job, move cities or give up a crutch.

You keep getting signs. Doors open that support your next step: you get offered a new job contract. You meet an attractive man. Someone tells you about the low price of real estate in the city you dream of moving to.

I call this “the escalator effect.” The universe is providing you with a boost to the next level of your growth. It’s a window of opportunity that stays open for a short time.

There is a price to getting on the elevator: you have to let go of something first. You can’t get on it and still be in the situation you’re in.

Years ago, I was involved with someone and had knew for months that it was over. I was trying to push aside that knowledge. In a workshop, I had a moment of crystal clarity that we had no future. It was time to end it officially.

All kinds of amazing things were taking off in my life at that time: I was suddenly meeting LOTS of intriguing men, I had incredible business ventures gearing up, I felt very optimistic about my future—I was on an upswing. The universe was providing me with an escalator.

Except that I didn’t get on it.

It was six months before I ended the relationship. By that time, the escalator was long gone. Instead, there was a cliff in front of me. I was stuck looking down at the crevasse. I could still leave, and I did. Now it was much harder to do.

The escalator is the gift we get from the universe when we ACT on our intuition and “the signs” as they appear. It supports our growth into the next stage of our lives. When we resist and hesitate, that help evaporates.

The message? Act fast when you know it’s time.

The universe supports bold, brave moves.

The video above is a twist on this idea: it’s still up to you to move.

And, fyi, I don’t do margarine. Butter, maybe, a la Last Tango in Paris. Not margarine. ;)

Ask, dammit!

Friday, September 9th, 2011

Ask for what you want.

From the universe. From your lover. From your friends.

There is a spiritual law which states that the universe cannot meddle in your affairs unless given permission.

And then it can start moving things around to give you what you want. And making miracles.

Miracles start with asking for them.

Thinking lightly about something, tossing it around in your head is not asking for it.

Making a request to the universe is.

Me thinking casually about writing a new article for Playboy is not asking. Writing a pitch to the editor is. (He loved it and said “yes” immediately. Look out for it in the coming months!)

Wishing your lover would figure out that you want him to spend more time performing oral sex on you during intercourse is not asking for it. Saying this is: “It so turns me on when you go down on me while we’re having sex. It drives me wild. I would love it if you did more of that. Would you?”

Being frustrated that your boss doesn’t recognize your true greatness is not asking to be acknowledged. Putting it out there that you are worth a promotion and a larger salary is.

No person, no thing can go about fulfilling your desires unless you ask first.

What have you been holding back on asking for?

You’ll be amazed at how eager the universe is to give you what you want.

Today, ask for three things that you’ve been holding back on. Doing so puts you back into the flow of life, of growth and movement in the universe.

Which is where you are meant to be.

The universe wants to collaborate with you. Look at nature—everything is in a constant motion of growth. That’s the nature of life here. All you need to do is get in the habit of asking.