Posts Tagged ‘confidence’

How to Get a Million Dollars

Thursday, January 27th, 2011

How do you get a million dollars?

Ask.

That’s what Craig Rowin did. He asked people–specifically millionaires and billionaires–to give him money. Specifically, one million dollars. For no particular reason. He said he might buy a new DVD player with the money. Or travel. He wasn’t sure.

How do you get the universe to give you what you want?

Ask.

Be it a million dollars, or a billion or a healthy body or a scathingly handsome man who gives you a plethora of orgasms or a sexually insatiable woman who adores you. Ask.

Ask and you shall receive.

You can’t get it unless you ask for it. The universe cannot give it to you unless you are ready to receive it.

Why I love Craig and his story is that he simply asked, unapologetically, for what he wanted. That simple. He also asked in a big way, so much so that television stations across the nation picked up his cause and replayed his video. Oh, and a millionaire called Craig up and offered to give him a million dollars.

You gotta put it out there.

To master this essential art, I’m starting a group coaching class at the beginning of next month called “Knock it Out of the Park: Your Outrageous Life.” The classes will be all about:

  • Get clear on what you really want: I mean the big dreams especially
  • The art of asking
  • Tools for clearing any blocks that prevent receiving abundance
  • Activating your internal guidance system to help you
  • Visualizations, guided meditations and group support for attraction and manifestation
  • Group discussion and sharing

I’m not talking about just anything–the only way I can personally get excited about goals is if they are “knock it out of the park” type goals that set me on fire. It’s the art of manifesting miracles.

Knock it Out of the Park: Your Outrageous Life:

Dates: Feb 16, Feb 22, March 1, March 8 (note: three Tuesdays and one Wednesday)
Time: 7-8:30pm
Cost: $100- (plus hst)
Location: Downtown Vancouver (details upon registration)
Register here.

Also, in the spirit of asking and receiving, I’m going to hold another class along the lines of “Self-Love: Attraction Within and Out.” This class will deal more specifically with attracting what we want in relationship–either bringing a new partner to us or in rejuvenating the connection we already have. We’ll focus on what’s holding you back, where you may be afraid to ask for what you really want and how to overcome those things. I’m considering doing this as a telecoaching class, meaning you can call in anytime, anywhere and participate. If you miss a class, they’ll be recorded and you can listen to them later.

Let me know your thoughts. I want to be able to serve as many people as possible, so the more feedback I get from you ASKING, the more likely you’ll receive what you want.

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“A well-fucked woman is a thing of beauty.”

- Kim Anami, “The Multi-Orgasmic Woman,” Playboy, March 2010.

Are you a well-fucked woman? Do you radiate sensuality and do your hips sway with the satisfied swish and bliss of a woman who has been thoroughly, artfully and heartfully fucked?

Men, do you want your woman to be well-fucked? Trust me, you do. We can gauge a how well-fucked a woman is by how she flows in life and gushes sexually. It’s more than worth your while to put the time and effort in to making sure she is satiated, mind, body and soul. Good sex is multi-dimensional fucking. Learn how to penetrate her on every level.

This Friday: The Art of Pleasuring a Woman. Still a few places left!

If you want a preview of the discussion and you haven’t already read it, check out my Playboy article for a teaser.

Do It Now

Friday, December 31st, 2010

One of the main problems with entrepreneurs is that they sit on ideas. They (well, we) let them roll around in our heads and instead of acting on them, we let them keep rolling around. Eventually, we forget about them or someone else miraculously snaps the idea up out of the collective unconscious and makes it real.

In highly successful people, one of the main differences between them and others is that the former learn to execute without hesitation. They don’t sit on information or inspiration, they don’t question it endlessly; if it makes sense and they are excited about it, they take action.

What often stops us is the desire to do it perfectly and the fear of rejection. What if it’s criticized? What if no one likes it? (I remember being in second grade and being told by my teacher that we weren’t allowed to ask “What if…?” questions. Very good advice).

The way we improve and refine our ideas is by getting feedback. Even if we put something out there in a less-than-perfect state (and I don’t believe anything or anyone is 100% perfect–it’s all about confidence, the resulting interaction gives us valuable information about how to hone our message so it makes more sense. If there is anything that’s unclear, we get to clarify it.

The beauty of initiating ideas is that once they get rolling, they build momentum. The energy of that momentum helps you to keep going and you are no longer doing it alone.

Here are some of the ideas I’ve been sitting on that I intend to execute in the coming months:

- “60 Seconds to Enlightenment” short video clips
- virtual Sexual Savant Salons
- online boutique on my website
- “Sex Rx” newsletter with tips on adding more sexual juice to your relationships
- make a “G-Spots; His and Hers” free PDF available for download on my site
- creating more speaking opportunities

There. Those will keep me busy. Just putting it out there is one step closer to making it real, because now I just told you about it. Maybe you’ll ask me how it’s going. Maybe when you see the first video, you’ll let me know what you think.

I invite you to share the ideas you want to make real this year, or in the next few months, on my blog in the comments section.

Image: one of my favorite idea-executors, Frank Gehry’s Guggenheim Museum in Bilbao, Spain.

Get Real. Add Color.

Friday, December 24th, 2010

The key to having fun is that you have to initiate it. In the wake of family gatherings that some people dread and others welcome, I offer the following: be yourself.

I generally avoid any sort of social circumstances that would force me to muzzle who I am. Although I am socially versatile enough to discriminate what to share where, if I can’t be real and engage in meaningful conversation, I’m bored.

For me, being a sex coach, I have an easy in. When people ask me what I do, I answer that “I’m a life and sex/relationship coach.” This is inevitably met by raised eyebrows and a series of questions. It also tends to be met by the other person sharing details about themselves they wouldn’t normally share with a stranger.

The point is, to get to the good stuff–the meaty, fleshy, raw, authentic stuff that is the essence of really good conversation–someone has to go first. Someone has to dive into being more authentic, more honest and take the conversation a level deeper.

Let it be you.

Whenever I go out, I make sure that I have a fantastic time because I’m more than willing to be the “fool.” I’m put myself out there–I dance like a maniac, I introduce myself to people I don’t know and I get deep, fast.

I play. I have fun.

I remember a friend sharing a story about his wizened 80-year-old grandmother at the Christmas dinner table who was talking about her experiences dating and the trials and tribulations of oral sex. The rest of the family nearly choked on their food and then began a lively discussion of said trials and tribulations. Way to go, grandma!

It doesn’t have to be sex talk (me and grandma just can’t help ourselves), but it has to be real. Go get ‘em!!